How do you, as a schizoid, see normal people?

[I really enjoyed reading the following account, which was shown to me by Quora. And by the way - this is not my own experience, nor similar to my experience.]

Answered on Quora.com by Mad Hatter

What IS “NORMAL”???

For the first half of my life my dad, “friends”, my ex husband criticized me for not being “normal”. I asked them what that is and I got really vague answers.

What I gathered was that I was to follow the herd. I remember clear as day my ex husband whining (it sounded whiny to ME) “why can’t you just be normal??”🙄 normal HOW?

A normal woman and wife? Happy to cook and clean? Always smiling and agreeable? Never complaining, never sad, never needing exorbitant amounts of alone time? Happy to sit around listening to his friends bullshit conversations pretending I’m enjoying it? Letting him do whatever the heck he wanted while I was being criticized for just trying to exist?

He wanted me to be easily manipulated. He threatened me so many times that he would leave me. Never happened. And I never begged him to stay with me. He wasn’t counting on my non emotional, detached nature. If my ex husband ever tried to make me feel jealous it didn’t work. He came and went as he pleased. I’d be up at 3am listening to music and in my little world and HE got mad at me that I was still up. I would be annoyed that he even came home at all.
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Some people asked what my ex was doing and I couldn’t answer. Because I didn’t care. I wasn’t watching him. I was in my own world. Some would imply he was cheating or doing the usually Normie worries but ... I don’t think that way. I don’t care. I’m not jealous. I’m NOT insecure. You can’t even force me to worry about half the crap Normies worry about. I am forgetful and I’m too busy with my projects and causes. I have to be reminded to eat and drink water!!

The only humans I find “normal “ are children under the age of 12. They are free spirited, innocent, and honest, for the most part, before they are destroyed by the lies and hypocritical culture modern society participates in.

I call the adults Normies. And I honestly think they are weird. They think I am weird. Great. We are even. I find a lot of Normies can’t think for themselves. Customers at my restaurant ask “what’s the best thing on the menu??" Or, "what’s YOUR favorite thing on the menu?”🙄 I want to pull out lightening bolts and strike them down- have they NO taste buds or personal preference? They just want to eat what’s popular?

I find normal people freaking BORING to be honest. All wearing the same clothes, latest fashion trends, same hair cuts and styles, same reactions that they learned from the tv show “Friends”- I hated that show. I hate Sitcoms except the Golden Girls. They are for extroverts.

I just couldn’t relate to these shows where every scene is the characters going around chit chatting and arguing about one thing after another. If there was a tv show (and I was an actor for 19 years🤗) that followed me it would be alone, reading 10 books at once then messing around with seeds, cooking and randomly dancing. As soon as another person entered I would probably excuse myself and find a reason to leave. I will make up excuses to not be bothered.

Someone comes along and sees I am having fun and Enjoying myself and they are like “Hey! Here’s the party! “ and I’m like Errrrrrgh!! No! Go away!

Normies….”let’s do everything together!!😃” NO.

My 9 & 10 year old kids have never told me they wished I was normal. They love my random, wacky, loner, creative persona. They have said they wished their narcissist dad could just be a normal dad. But he has a unique personality that none of us can handle for too long.

it’s normal to care. To be emotional? I’m not normal because I don’t attach and crying over an ex lover or friend for years seems completely stupid to me. Going to see a film that everyone else is seeing? Trying to keep up with the Jones’s?? Damn, even my sons (ok MY) Lego characters have more personality. I did love the last Joker movie. I related to him.

If I found myself at a party (IF you can get me out the house…) and there was…a politician, Beyoncé, Tom Brady or Tiger Woods and then the Joker being a weirdo over in the corner- I would bypass all the others and talk to the Joker. 🤩

I’m sorry but “Normal” people are repetitive and just say and do the same things that everyone else says and does. They are just being Normal. It’s not a bad thing at all if you like that.

Schizoids are not all the same and are most likely offended that normal people think we are all the same. I for one, spend a lot of time alone and no one knows what I am doing or thinking. Why bother telling anyone how I spend every minute? Who cares? Why care what I am doing?? Who cares what I had for lunch or whether I ate at all or not??

Coworkers ask me what I am having for lunch. 🙄 I always usually get an omelette and eat two bites-then go smoke 4 cigarettes. Are they going to have an omelette too?? Get what you want! I appreciate those who have a mind of their own and don’t need to be told what to do!

I don’t want to be normal. I couldn’t be even if I tried. When I was teenager I tried to be normal and fit in and I went into a depression so deep I wanted to kill myself.

Doctors and detectives would have read my journals trying to figure out why I took my life and would have found that I was trying to be “normal” and being made fun of all the time. I’d rather be dead than normal.

No thanks. I love being me. I want all Schizoids to know: you’re ok! You are unique and intelligent and apart from the crowd. DONT follow or worship anyone but honor yourself. If some don’t like it then cut them off. But I’m sure you know how to do that. Join a Schizoid community where emotions aren’t going to get in the way.

Schizoids can DM me but don’t get attached and I might not reply right away. I’m busy in my fantasy world or basically doing nothing.