"Yet, our children and relationships were still mired in our dysfunction. We recreated the abandonment and loss of our own childhood."
Many of us tried to raise our families differently. But without ACA or another type of intervention, we were like our parents - we could only give what we had. This meant we made a lot of wrong choices. We may even have become alienated from our children, finding that they resented us, just as we resented our parents.
ACA presents us with a choice: stay and get better in a way that might someday repair our relationships, or feel hopeless and continue to fill ourselves with self-blame and shame.
If we choose ACA, we must let go of the fact that we didn't find help earlier, when it could have prevented so much pain. We accept that change takes time, so we "get our heads on straight" and concentrate on taking care of ourselves. As we're ready, we learn to be present in a healthy way for our children. If we're separated from them, we hope they come back to us, but if they don't, we continue to love them and pray they find their way.
On this day I will take care of myself first. Only then will I be available to my family if they ask for emotional support.
Sunday, January 19, 2025
Monday, January 6, 2025
Can a child in the womb kick often/hard enough to injure the mother?
[Answered on Quora.com by Tori Walker]
Oh my goodness yes! My first baby fractured 2 of my ribs. He had just lined himself up perfectly to push and kick with all his might straight at my ribs. Yeah ... and since it was the third trimester, no advil for me. Just Tylenol at low doses and a wrapping for my ribs. That was a very painful last 2 months of pregnancy.
Oh my goodness yes! My first baby fractured 2 of my ribs. He had just lined himself up perfectly to push and kick with all his might straight at my ribs. Yeah ... and since it was the third trimester, no advil for me. Just Tylenol at low doses and a wrapping for my ribs. That was a very painful last 2 months of pregnancy.
Sunday, January 5, 2025
What are the funniest italian jokes?
{Answered on Quora.com by Jetbudgie II]
Thank you to the genius poet John Cooper Clarke for this gem - (excuse the swearing, but it’s how he told it)
A man is at the barber and makes conversation.
The barber asks him "You going anywhere for your holidays?"
The man says, "Me and my wife are going to Rome".
"Why do you want to go to Rome?"
"I love Italian food".
"Well, it's all fish and chip shops in Rome."
"Well, I'm also going for the sunshine".
"It was constantly pissing rain when I was last there."
"Well, I like Romanesque architecture."
"Romanesque architecture is out of the question, it's all industrialized and there's corrugated iron everywhere you look."
"Well, the real reason why we're going to Rome is because my wife and I want to see the Pope before we die."
"Yeah, you and 65 million more of the faithful crowded in the Vatican. You won't see the Pope, in fact you'll be lucky if you see the top of his hat."
About a month later, he goes back to the barber, having gone to Italy.
The barber asks him "Aren't you the fella that went to Italy?"
The man replies "Yeah."
The barber asks him "So, how was it?”
“The food was fantastic! Sunshine, wonderful, the Romanesque architecture has to be seen to be believed.
“Did you see the Pope?"
The man replies, "Yeah I did. My wife and I along with 65 million other Catholics were crowded in the Vatican, and I could just barely make out the top of his hat before I saw him point his bejeweled staff towards me. The crowd parted to a man. He came down the stairs and walked right up to me and asked, "Who cut your fucking hair?"
Thank you to the genius poet John Cooper Clarke for this gem - (excuse the swearing, but it’s how he told it)
A man is at the barber and makes conversation.
The barber asks him "You going anywhere for your holidays?"
The man says, "Me and my wife are going to Rome".
"Why do you want to go to Rome?"
"I love Italian food".
"Well, it's all fish and chip shops in Rome."
"Well, I'm also going for the sunshine".
"It was constantly pissing rain when I was last there."
"Well, I like Romanesque architecture."
"Romanesque architecture is out of the question, it's all industrialized and there's corrugated iron everywhere you look."
"Well, the real reason why we're going to Rome is because my wife and I want to see the Pope before we die."
"Yeah, you and 65 million more of the faithful crowded in the Vatican. You won't see the Pope, in fact you'll be lucky if you see the top of his hat."
About a month later, he goes back to the barber, having gone to Italy.
The barber asks him "Aren't you the fella that went to Italy?"
The man replies "Yeah."
The barber asks him "So, how was it?”
“The food was fantastic! Sunshine, wonderful, the Romanesque architecture has to be seen to be believed.
“Did you see the Pope?"
The man replies, "Yeah I did. My wife and I along with 65 million other Catholics were crowded in the Vatican, and I could just barely make out the top of his hat before I saw him point his bejeweled staff towards me. The crowd parted to a man. He came down the stairs and walked right up to me and asked, "Who cut your fucking hair?"
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