[Answered on quora.com by Dushka Zapata]
My niece had a freak accident.
She was making S’mores while closely supervised and as one of the marshmallows began to swell and puff and roast it caught fire and billowed off the skewer. A gust of wind blew it – in flames- into her eye.
Marshmallows are sticky.
She spent three weeks in the Burn Care Unit of a hospital.*
When my brother called to notify me of this I found his voice and his demeanor beyond recognition. He was unglued.
When my niece was born my brother took everything he loved and everything he was interested in and happily set it aside. She would come first now.
There are not many things that I know for sure but I know that as long as they are both alive she will be his single most important thing.
Parents can’t let go because they give up their lives to make sure we are comfortable.
*My niece made a full recovery. My brother is scarred for life.
Wednesday, February 15, 2023
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
Good Enough (from daily ACA email)
"ACA recovery is challenging, but the rewards are immense. We must put forth effort and feel the uncomfortable feelings that might come. At the same time, the goal is self-love and knowing that we are good enough just the way we are. This is an ACA paradox."
For years, our critical inner parent continued to remind us that we were not good enough. It was a replay of what we were taught about ourselves as children. We didn't realize it, but that critical part of us was also saying we would never have enough to satisfy our needy Inner Child. At some point we may have asked ourselves, "What is enough?"
With the help of the ACA program, we began to see that we were making inroads into the healing process that would quiet our critical inner parent. In doing so, we knew we could begin to meet our Inner Child's needs.
As life continues to move forward, bit by bit, we let go of the "enough" of our childhood and learn to accept who we are - that we have so very much to offer. We recognize that our Higher Power helps us fulfill our needs, and occasionally our wants.
On this day I remember that I am and have always been more than good enough.
For years, our critical inner parent continued to remind us that we were not good enough. It was a replay of what we were taught about ourselves as children. We didn't realize it, but that critical part of us was also saying we would never have enough to satisfy our needy Inner Child. At some point we may have asked ourselves, "What is enough?"
With the help of the ACA program, we began to see that we were making inroads into the healing process that would quiet our critical inner parent. In doing so, we knew we could begin to meet our Inner Child's needs.
As life continues to move forward, bit by bit, we let go of the "enough" of our childhood and learn to accept who we are - that we have so very much to offer. We recognize that our Higher Power helps us fulfill our needs, and occasionally our wants.
On this day I remember that I am and have always been more than good enough.
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