Andy Summers "A Piece Of Time"

What matters?

Graham Parker "Don't Ask Me Questions"


Crimson autograph
Is what we leave behind
Everywhere, where that man set foot, yeah
A warmonger's laughin' loud
Behind a painted face
Throwing titbits to the crowd then
Blowin' up the place
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Please
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, ain't no answer in me
Well, I stand up for liberty
But I can't liberate
And pent up agony
I see you take first place
Well, who does this treachery
I shout with bleedin' hands
Is it you or is it me, well
I never will understand
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Please, no, no, no, no, no, no
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, ain't no answer in me
Who waves his mighty hands
And breaks the precious rules
Well the same one got to understand
Who wasted all these fools
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Please, no, no, no, no, no, no
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, don't ask me questions
Hey Lord, ain't no answer in me, yeah
Ain't no answer in me, no
Ain't no answer in me
Oh no, oh no
Ain't no answer, ain't no answer, no answer in me
Ain't no answer, ain't no answer, no answer in me
Ain't no answer, ain't no answer, no answer in me




It didn't matter anyway
We'll meet again some other day
'til then keep well
You'll be in my dreams
Goodnight, goodbye, bye for now

The time has come to leave you
Please don't feel alone
For now that we've met
There'll be a way to reach you and say "Never mind"

It didn't matter anyway
We'll meet again some other day
Till then keep well
You'll be in my dreams
Goodnight, goodbye, bye for now

Boundaries (from daily ACA email)

"I am more aware of how I overstep my boundaries, and how I try to force things to work the way I want them to work."

We were vulnerable as children in dysfunctional homes. We experienced no one who was able to set healthy boundaries and maintain them.
In ACA we learn to see the importance of boundaries by practicing the Steps and by identifying and working on our character defects. We learn to recognize boundaries that have been crossed, including when we do it to others. We feel free when we set new boundaries. Progress happens, one day at a time.

The ACA program also helps us recognize manipulative behaviors, which is usually a companion for those with boundary issues. If we're the manipulator, we begin to see that our attempts to change others will eventually fail; in the meantime, they'll only complicate things. As we grow stronger, understanding boundaries places everything in perspective.

To help us stay focused, we look to Step Ten, "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it." It allows us to inventory our thoughts and actions on a regular basis. This keeps our impulsive natures in check so we recognize boundaries in everyday life.

On this day, as my identity and values become more clear, I will work to become consistent in setting my own boundaries and honoring the boundaries other people set.

Self-Sabotage (from daily ACA email)

"I decided the only way to overcome self-sabotage was to integrate my critical parent into my recovery process."

We tried to ignore our critical inner parent - that compilation of voices we heard as children and were used to hearing in our heads. If it was too strong to ignore, we tried to fight it, but it always seemed to find a way to win.

In ACA, we learn to uncover why this critic has had such a strong hold on us. By acknowledging the trauma that's behind the voices, we understand and gradually learn to substitute new behaviors so we can silence this tyrant in our heads.

This gives us freedom as we bring new light into our lives in little ways. We begin to trust ourselves, others, and our Higher Power. We have healthier relationships as we find ourselves attracted to the strengths and depth in people who can hold our feelings safely rather than trying to shut us down.

We let go of the dysfunctional people. While they may have taught us the lessons we needed to learn, we know that staying is toxic. In doing so, we feel no shame or remorse; it is time to move on. We are open to the next adventure.

On this day I will be aware of my attempts at self-sabotage because I believe in the promise of the growth ahead of me. I will use my lifeline - the support system that ACA gives me.

Bill Frisell "Pipeline"

"Knows the baby's name"

It sure feels good when one's name is remembered, and sometimes mentioned.

Promise Eight (from daily ACA email)

"We will choose to love people who can love and be responsible for themselves."

Prior to coming to ACA, we had been unconscious about a great many things. Perhaps the most painful was our unconscious choice of the people we thought we loved.

As children, we wanted to love our parents. So we overlooked their dysfunction as a way to make them lovable. After all, the alternative was to see them as they really were and leave - a choice that is rarely possible for a child.

As adults, we continued to make unconscious choices to love other dysfunctional people until one day we got it. Something was terribly familiar about the people we had chosen to love. It was déjà vu, all over again.

As we come to consciousness about our childhood experiences and do the work in ACA, we begin to love and accept our True Self. Only then are we capable of having healthy relationships with others. We begin to choose people who are capable of truly loving us, and who take responsibility for themselves. We are now willing to share our True Self, the person we were meant to be, the one who is able to love responsibly in return.

On this day I will examine my relationships, both past and present, to help me understand the choices I have made. I will begin to share my True Self with others in my life so that I may find the love I deserve.

Songs encountered in my youth - 2 sappy, 1 not

Simon & Art Garfunkel "Bright Eyes"


Daniel Balavoine "L'amour gardé secret"


Si ta tête ne peut plus tenir
Si tes lèvres tremblent pour lui dire
Ce que j’ai
De mieux en moi
C’est toi

Quand la porte va enfin s’ouvrir
Ces mots simples vont tout définir
Tout l’amour
Que je te donne
Me vient de toi

L’amour gardé secret ne sert à rien
Je le savais bien
Tout cacher en soi est une fin
L’amour gardé secret ne sert à rien
S’offrir est un bien
Le silence est ton propre venin

Si tes yeux sentent une douleur
Oh n’aie pas peur
Dans le malheur
Même les hommes pleurent
Oh Malheur
Même les hommes pleurent

Peu importe ce qu’elle te répond
Le savoir vaut mieux qu’une illusion
Accepter
Sans comprendre
C’est la raison

L’amour gardé secret ne sert à rien
Je le savais bien
Tout cacher en soi est une fin
L’amour gardé secret ne sert à rien
S’offrir est un bien
Le silence est ton propre venin

Si tu sens pencher ton cœur
Oh n’aie pas peur
Dans le malheur
Même les hommes pleurent
Oh malheur
Même les hommes pleurent
N’aie pas peur
Même les hommes pleurent

Visage "Fade To Grey"


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fade_to_Grey_(Visage_song)

Ambulance LTD "Yoga means Union"

Big Audio Dynamite "Contact"

Feelings fly around
'round up in the air
Bouncing off the walls
Getting under my hair
On the carpet in the weave
Up in trees on the leaves
Feelings flying everywhere

I'm on the right track
For what I want to say
I got to get it out
There ain't no other way
To make contact
There ain't no getting away
From how I feel today

Feelings flying around
'round up in the air
Out in the hall
And sitting on my chair
I've seen them on the train
Coming down with the rain
Feelings flying everywhere

I'm on the right track
For what I want to say
I got to get it out
There ain't no other way
To make contact
There ain't no getting away
From how I feel today

Feelings flying 'round
'round up in the air
Some are really small
They come from over there
Hard to ignore
I see them all the more
Feelings flying everywhere

I'm on the right track
For what I want to say
I got to get it out
There ain't no other way
To make contact
There ain't no getting away
From how I feel today

I'm on the right track
For what I want to say
I got to get it out
There ain't no other way
To make contact
There ain't no getting away
From how I feel today

I'm on the right track
For what I want to say
I got to get it out
There ain't no other way
To make contact
There ain't no getting away
From how I feel today

Gordeeva & Grinkov (RUS) - 1994 Canadian Professionals, Pairs' Artistic ...

Gov't Mule -"Thorazine Shuffle"

The Shins "Dead Alive"