Sunday, November 29, 2020
Guilty until proven otherwise
https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/29/opinions/kyle-rittenhouse-bail-donations-race-leiba/index.html
Thursday, November 26, 2020
Safety
"There is a way to discuss and heal from the events of the past without minimizing these events and without remaining stuck with such memories."
Arriving at the bridge between denial and acceptance was painful. What were we to do now that the brutality of the past was revealed? What were we to do with the internal mess that we had been left with from childhood? What were we to do with the tattered remains of a heart cast in stone, the plethora of emotions under lock and key, the inability to reach out?
We realize we are about to cross over a bridge. We come to know that there will be no going back. This is an irreversible process of progress from pain, sorrow and suffering to health, joy and peace. All we need to do is avail ourselves of others and begin our journey with the first step forward. It isn't easy, but it is a lot less painful that staying stuck in our own absolute uncertainty. Once on the other side, we see how deeply self-protective we had become. No longer is it necessary to hide from others by looking down at the ground. We move our gaze into the eyes of those who understand how we feel, and we find safety in their unconditional concern for our well being.
On this day I will keep my head high and know that with the help of others, I am safe from the memories of the past.
Arriving at the bridge between denial and acceptance was painful. What were we to do now that the brutality of the past was revealed? What were we to do with the internal mess that we had been left with from childhood? What were we to do with the tattered remains of a heart cast in stone, the plethora of emotions under lock and key, the inability to reach out?
We realize we are about to cross over a bridge. We come to know that there will be no going back. This is an irreversible process of progress from pain, sorrow and suffering to health, joy and peace. All we need to do is avail ourselves of others and begin our journey with the first step forward. It isn't easy, but it is a lot less painful that staying stuck in our own absolute uncertainty. Once on the other side, we see how deeply self-protective we had become. No longer is it necessary to hide from others by looking down at the ground. We move our gaze into the eyes of those who understand how we feel, and we find safety in their unconditional concern for our well being.
On this day I will keep my head high and know that with the help of others, I am safe from the memories of the past.
Saturday, November 7, 2020
via Quora: How do you know when someone really loves you?
Answered by Mohamed Semeunacte
[With "When she's in love, a woman gets in bed. When he's in love, a man stays in bed" graphic]
[There’s a huge difference between:]
[Someone who is not really in love with you but say they are - And someone who actively fakes being in love with you]
Regarding Men
2 days ago, we were joking around with a friend of mine (a guy) and he said something that stuck with me:
I don’t really know what love is but with (GF’s name) I wanted to stay in bed after I finished. That was weird, I told myself that’s probably what love is.
See, men are not really good with emotions.
Of course, it is changing but not at the pace the media seems to describe it.
What that means is, when a man is in love, he actually displays the same basic behavior his Dad and grand-father displayed before him.
When a man is in love:
He tells everyone
Especially family and friends. If you never met his family and/or his friends, no matter what he says, it’s BS.
He wants to be “your fixer”
Call him and tell him that your car didn’t start this morning and watch his reaction. A man in love is a fixer “hold on Babe, I’m coming” or “Wait a minute, I’m at work, I’m calling Dave, he’ll come in a bit”.
He is willing to throw a punch for you
Your security and respect become his duty. Some guys are built for it and some aren't. But really, if someone threatens you in any shape or form, he will react the same way.
Regarding Women
Women are built for this sh**… literally. Her brain is wired for emotions.
If a woman feels warm, wanted and adored and is in the attachment phase, she concludes that she’s probably in love.
When a woman is in love:
She talks ... a lot
A woman’s focus is usually on communication, harmony and sharing. If she’s consistently exhibiting a behavior that is not aligned with those values ... there’s something she’s not telling you.
She involves herself in your world
Since one of her big value is sharing, she will want to get to know you more and more. She will want to know your family and friends. She may not like them much, but she wants to know them. She does that because she has a hunch and wants to verify it. The more she’s involved in your world, the more she gets to know you and [find out] if you can fulfill her various needs.
She actively looks for new ways to become the center of your world
This is the main reason women are the organizers of all the trips: the “love escapes”, the “family trips” etc… A woman intuitively knows that a man can forget his commitment to her. Therefore she takes the time to organize their life.
One last word about “faking it”.
I don’t know one person who’s ready to go through all of the above just to get you to ... I don’t know what. Therefore, I wouldn’t spend too much time on this kind of idea.
[With "When she's in love, a woman gets in bed. When he's in love, a man stays in bed" graphic]
[There’s a huge difference between:]
[Someone who is not really in love with you but say they are - And someone who actively fakes being in love with you]
Regarding Men
2 days ago, we were joking around with a friend of mine (a guy) and he said something that stuck with me:
I don’t really know what love is but with (GF’s name) I wanted to stay in bed after I finished. That was weird, I told myself that’s probably what love is.
See, men are not really good with emotions.
Of course, it is changing but not at the pace the media seems to describe it.
What that means is, when a man is in love, he actually displays the same basic behavior his Dad and grand-father displayed before him.
When a man is in love:
He tells everyone
Especially family and friends. If you never met his family and/or his friends, no matter what he says, it’s BS.
He wants to be “your fixer”
Call him and tell him that your car didn’t start this morning and watch his reaction. A man in love is a fixer “hold on Babe, I’m coming” or “Wait a minute, I’m at work, I’m calling Dave, he’ll come in a bit”.
He is willing to throw a punch for you
Your security and respect become his duty. Some guys are built for it and some aren't. But really, if someone threatens you in any shape or form, he will react the same way.
Regarding Women
Women are built for this sh**… literally. Her brain is wired for emotions.
If a woman feels warm, wanted and adored and is in the attachment phase, she concludes that she’s probably in love.
When a woman is in love:
She talks ... a lot
A woman’s focus is usually on communication, harmony and sharing. If she’s consistently exhibiting a behavior that is not aligned with those values ... there’s something she’s not telling you.
She involves herself in your world
Since one of her big value is sharing, she will want to get to know you more and more. She will want to know your family and friends. She may not like them much, but she wants to know them. She does that because she has a hunch and wants to verify it. The more she’s involved in your world, the more she gets to know you and [find out] if you can fulfill her various needs.
She actively looks for new ways to become the center of your world
This is the main reason women are the organizers of all the trips: the “love escapes”, the “family trips” etc… A woman intuitively knows that a man can forget his commitment to her. Therefore she takes the time to organize their life.
One last word about “faking it”.
I don’t know one person who’s ready to go through all of the above just to get you to ... I don’t know what. Therefore, I wouldn’t spend too much time on this kind of idea.
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