Friday, November 29, 2019

Moby "We Are All Made of Stars"

How to have a relationship with me•

Show up. Look. listen. Ask.
The favor will be returned, probably multi-fold.
•[or with anyone else]

Wednesday, November 6, 2019

November 6 Meditation, from daily mailing

Adult Child Defined

"An adult child is someone who responds to adult situations with self-doubt, self-blame, or a sense of being wrong or inferior - all learned from stages of childhood."

We may have grown up with parents who used anger and conditional love to control us. Maybe they were perfectionists and we could never measure up to their ideals. We were left with a feeling of certainty that our feelings, opinions, and perceptions were inadequate - that it was wrong to be an imperfect human being.

As adults, our sense of wrongness from childhood may have kept us from expressing our true opinions; we feared others would abandon us if we disagreed with them. This may have led us to make unhealthy choices about partners or careers because our self-doubt was more powerful than our ability to trust ourselves.

We have an opportunity to break the "Don't talk, don't trust, don't feel" rule. As we face our shame and feelings of abandonment, we begin to realize that our self-image is not actually based on objective reality. We start to see more of the middle ground in situations and to approach life as balanced adults. As we learn to experience our Higher Power's unconditional love, we see that our opinions matter, and that even when we don't think and feel as others do, we are still lovable.

Friday, November 1, 2019

Happy November 1

Happy first day of the month ... and happy upcoming 4 bears day: the day of the dead.
It's enrichening to think about those who came before us - at least on one of the days of a year? It gives a greater depth to our experience, to be able to see one's life as part of something larger, and stretching through much deeper time, like an elastic web with some "give" to it.
It's a much harder exercise to imagine the experiences of those who come after us. It's hard to wrap one's mind around so many unknowns - so is it a fruitful exercise to guess what their futures could be like? [Maybe - probabably.]
A remaining question: can the web of deep time, and incarnate experience, fold back in on itself and possibly contact another part of the web? Woo-woo! ;-)
[Maybe if the web can also act like visco-elastic bubble plastic - ?! Oldsters: Remember the toy Super Elastic Bubble Plastic? Deep in middle childhood, I used to save my birthday and event money, so I could acquire some of that stuff, in a timely fashion. Certain materials just capture the attention, currency and Ka-Ching of childhood, heh.] ;-)
(Yesterday, which is a culturally distinctive day of the year, where I and my peoples are from - I felt nearly like I was on a direct communication pipeline with my grandmother Claudia, for a while, somehow. Anyway - no matter how my illusion or disillusion/delusion was: I imagined some kind and encouraging words that I might have reasonably expected to hear from her - and then it was almost as if she were right next to me, softly speaking those words, with a smile.) ;-)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Elastic_Bubble_Plastic